Tuesday, January 31, 2006

Features

I remember various discussions in which either women would ask the men, or men would talk 'mongst themselves, to try and discover what individual traits men found attractive in women. I always found it interesting that many men often had specific hair colors, skin tones, heights or other various 'pet' traits. I've generally had a hard time being as specific as I've generally observed other men be. Not that I have a problem with this. It is a bit confusing though. I remember taking some online test that was supposed to tell you what you found attractive in the faces of the other gender. I took it a few times trying to be certain that I didn't hit a fluke on one of the tests (granted this is all assuming that the test was properly put together). While it generally said I had a slight tendency toward both Hispanic and Caucasian the test stated that I still was open to women of all profiles. I don't know what it is, but I find it rather exciting to think that my future wife could be of any combination of traits.

I think what I hope the most is that I do not allow my eyes to overthrow my capacity to view true character. I hope I don't allow my eye for physical beauty to eclipse my capacity to see true beauty or to chose true beauty over simply the superficial hormonal triggers that nature and culture have to a degree embedded in my being.

--Still Searching

2 Comments:

Blogger Katrina said...

Interesting.. hope u won't me, i'll just like to add to that.

Being called beautiful or handsome may be seem so great a compliment, but I find it more meaningful in being respected not due to one's physical attributes but by the personhood and the ideals that a person upholds. One's body is not of one's choosing. One's race, one's nationality are not part of the agreed contract to be born, they are not chosen by the person and therefore are not worthy to be taken as basis of one's compatibility with others. The physical body is nothing more than just a representation, an instrument of a higher, much more complex being, the self.

If someone could delve into another's mind, and appreciate him/her for his thoughts and ideals, then that perhaps is of a higher form of association than physical intimacy. To know a person is to deny oneself the luxury of being fixated on another's physical limitations, see past all the blemishes and pimples and cracks that line their faces, but instead see them as a person. Another individual with their own unique storyline, their own personalized character, their own identity. To see the person as he/she sees himself, to accept him/her wholly and not conditionally, to come to understand that what is he is, is so, because he is given the right to choose the way he wants to be. To be really serious with a person, one perhaps should see beyond the limitations of the eyes, but instead to meet each other and see each other within one's minds.

Just a thought. :D

2:06 AM  
Blogger HiveRadical said...

I'll reply to this in my hive blog

9:02 PM  

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